Many people like to ask lots of questions and provide lots of opinions about our family.
Mainly when I am out with all of them in any public or outdoor place (I have literally gotten stopped in the street while taking a walk with my girls)
Read that – when –> I <– am out with them.
I can’t remember a time when Brent was with me that people provide their unnecessary inquiry.
I’ll have to think on that some and ask Brent what I’ve missed.
Anyway, moving on.
Here’s what it looks like for us to go do really anything.
We enter some public place (store, restaurant, etc).
Are all of those yours?
No, no there not. I just like to randomly pick up children and claim them as my own.
Four girls, huh?
Congratulations, your ability to identify male and female and count is on point.
Turn around and let’s get you a pat on the back.
Girls are the worst.
Oh, yeah, I’ve gotten this comment many times said IN FRONT OF MY GIRLS.
I just look at them and think, ‘what does this have to do with you?’
And why is your opinion of their worst-ness of any matter to me.
But, also, go away.
I love having girls.
Is it stressful? Duh.
Is it emotional? Sure.
Are they awesome? Absolutely.
Man, you’re all gonna be synced up at the same time.
Well, thank you for sharing your awareness of the female reproductive system.
I obviously know nothing about it.
You’re gonna have to buy a lot of feminine products.
Thank you, Sherlock Holmes, I just thought menstruation magically takes care of itself.
I’ll be sure to read up on it.
Boys are so much easier.
Well, obviously not you (most of my commenters are men).
I have four girls.
This is what I know, and even if I did have a boy in there somewhere, whoopty doo – they’re made different.
Surprise, surprise.
Your poor husband.
Why? Because he’s the only male in house full of girls (yes, even our pets are female).
Let me tell you something about my husband, he’s an amazing girl dad.
He is not phased one bit, nor does he feel cheated because there isn’t a boy in the house.
So, instead of thinking he’s somehow missing out, or singled out, think about the richness he gets to experience, and how he gets to teach them how men should treat women.
He’s an excellent example of that.
4, that’s a lot of kids.
*slow clap* Congratulations, you can count!
Also, when did 4 kids become ‘a lot of kids’.
When did it become weird for families to have more than one or two children?
It’s an un-winnable situation no matter how many kids you have though, because I have friends with more or less and they get comments and questions too.
Maybe next time you see a family with any amount of children of any male or female mixing, compliment them about their children.
Share something you saw that would be uplifting to them.
Otherwise, stick the rule: if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Okay, off the soapbox.
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First- the problem is that those people don’t think *pause* and they don’t think that what they’re saying is mean.
Second – in full disclosure- someone has asked me which is easier and of course I said boys. But he came first and she was so different. She literally came out swinging her fists. And well- have you met her? So my opinion is biased and based on my kids. In the moment I couldn’t explain that- nor did I really know. Now when I get asked that – my answer is parenting is hard regardless.
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As of late too, and depending on the person, I like to ask questions back and try and reach the real issue of their question or inquiry.
Sometimes it’s helpful, other times I find out it really didn’t matter – their questions are rooted in an unchangeable opinion.
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My mouth fell open at the “girls are the worst” comment! Who would ever think to say such a thing? Very sad.
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It’s absolutely ridiculous. I’ve had my girls ask me after, “why did they say that?” I just respond, “who knows?! What they say and how they say it are just opinions, not truth. I think you all are the best and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.” But the point is they hear it. It’s awful.
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