Delight In Your Introvert.

So, how about them introverts.

Observant, quiet, intuitive, intellectual, creative, and independent, are just a few of an introverts noteworthy qualities.

But, sometimes the execution of these qualities are misinterpreted and instead experienced as rude/off putting, lacking social skills, or just plain weird.

I’ve spent time connecting with other moms over our introverted children, and conversing about adults’ expectations.

These discussions have revealed that children are given way less grace and understanding when adults encounter these misread attributes, and unmasked some common themes.

They’re choosy.

That kid who’s hiding behind their parent, hasn’t observed you enough to be neighborly. It’s totally okay to be obedient to the uncomfortableness of strangers, or even with familiar individuals.

They’re always listening.

That kid who doesn’t respond when you ask them a question, they aren’t dumb or unable to communicate. They’re quietly observing and haven’t decided if you will value their time as they will yours.

They don’t owe you anything.

That kid who doesn’t want to give you a hug or high five, that’s perfectly okay too. Would you hug a stranger? Would you offer a sign of physical affection if you’re uncomfortable, family or stranger alike?

Do you enjoy doing things that go against your person?

Is it right to expect a child to ignore their uncomfortable feelings as well?

Absolutely not.

They’re supposed to be that way.

Unfortunately, these tendencies can cause some to get their underwear in a wad.

So, why do some get so frustrated?

Well, for me I struggle because I have a particular agenda: an expected response – a hug, a smile, or some kind of visible acknowledgement.

The common denominator? Me.

What I want. When I focus on what I expect in return, I’m not giving proper consideration to the other person’s feelings or comfort level.

We have to remember introverts just don’t offer those displays of comfort or affection lightly. And, we shouldn’t encourage otherwise.

Because they are choosy, that embrace, dialogue, or friendship you’re after is earned with an introvert. But, your investment will never be never in vain.

That hug you finally receive has greater meaning.

That in-depth conversation will be one for the books.

That relational connection you make is lifelong.

I encourage all of you (myself included), to straighten out your underwear, and not rush your introvert. Be willing to remove your personal expectations and take a hot minute.

In this crazy world, what an introvert offers is powerful. Praise your kiddos for their quiet and introspective ways in such a loud, busy world.

Take the time and pour into them and you will reap something truly beautiful.

If you have an introverted child, what are some things you’ve learned? Anything surprise you?